You want me to forgive WHO?


“You have forgiven them entirely or not at all” – A Course in Miracles.

I have a morning practice I really enjoy. It includes readings from two daily books of readings: A Course in Miracles and Around the Year with Emmet Fox. They include messages and exercises to practice within in the day and to integrate into my life. I don’t remember the last time I missed a day. Until now.

On February 16th I woke up and something felt off. I had an odd feeling I had missed the lesson from the day before. How could that be? It’s become a part of who I am. But oddly, I had. When I saw the topic, the same in both books, I realized why and what I needed to do. The message was about ‘forgiveness.’

The events of February 14th in Parkland, Fl were so horrific they left me numb and grieving. Grieving for the loss of innocence. Heartbroken for my family and friends in the community where I lived and the unimaginable pain they were feeling. Devastated for those who lost loved ones. Shocked at the journey and missteps that led to this tragedy. Dumbfounded as to how healing and recovery would come about.

I believe the messages about forgiveness were missed that day because I was not open to receiving them. The darkness had entered and had taken hold. I felt its grips and focused on it not becoming all consuming. However, darkness can not thrive in the light. And, the message of forgiveness could not stay rejected for long. Light penetrates even the smallest cracks. A crack opened within me and the light returned. That was the light of forgiveness.

Around the Year with Emmet Fox read “But what the Law of Being requires of us is that we forgive the very things that are so hard to forgive that at first it seems impossible to do it at all.” And continues, “Setting others free means setting yourself free, because resentment is really a form of attachment. You are tied by a cosmic tie to the thing that you hate.”

Forgiveness means releasing the attachment. It does not mean absolving someone of their actions. There were many faulty actions leading to the events in Parkland. There needs to be accountability, change, and yes forgiveness for any lasting transformation to occur. Mine starts with me.

A Course in Miracles lesson stated “Forgiveness is the great need of this world. Fear condemns and love forgives. Forgiveness thus undoes what fear has produced.” February 14th became a day of dichotomy: love vs fear. Could a simple act of forgiveness somehow, somewhere along the journey, have changed the course of events that led to that fateful day. Was fear the underlying reason for all the missteps?

I’m not suggesting who you forgive. Or when. That is up to you. I am suggesting you explore who you might be willing to forgive now. I imagine for many of us we may have little difficulty identifying someone. I know I didn’t. Perhaps it’s as simple as the person who cut you off in traffic. Whoever it may be try this simple exercise and free yourself.

Close your eyes. Take and release 3 deep breaths. Ask that you be given the strength to see beyond the fear and transmute this energy into love. Feel love and light filling your heart. When you feel a warmth or light in your heart bring the person to mind. Say to yourself or out loud “I fully and completely forgive you <name>. I release you and I release me from the chain that binds us. I forgive you. I forgive me. We are both free. Thank you.”

Pamela PearsonComment